I believe the desire for self-approval is a desire to stand out.

I think it is a natural emotion to want to show that you are different from others and to be recognized for who you are.

However, there are situations in which one does not want to "stand out."

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You may receive unexpected and overdue recognition for what you have done in a long life.

That in itself is fine.

The problem is that people from all walks of life will come to us for consultations, it becomes known.

You may feel that since it is called "consultations," you have the right to choose. However, it becomes a de facto "order in business matters.

Even if you are short on time, "work orders" will be added, and others will eat up your mental and physical resources. It is "annoying."

However, it is also true that if these consultations do not come to us, it will be challenging to dig in and expand on what we want to do, so it is "troubling" that there are no such consultations.

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It would be nice to control what we "want to stand out" and what we "don't want to stand out," but this is quite complex - or, rather, impossible.

Ultimately, it seems we have no choice but to resign ourselves to the fact that "I am like a falling leaf floating in a flowing river.