I worked as "mourners" for the first time in my life, but most preparations were done by a funeral service company.
I felt like I was "canned" moving over the factory's production line, but honestly I was relieved with my heart.
The persons of the funeral service company advised what I should have done, and the preparation for the funeral progresses. S I was given a lot of ease.
For researchers in the system, which are pushed down to the brain's mind, to speed up, to increase efficiency, to save costs usually, I think,
"There are so many things to learn from this structured funeral system"
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Well, I think that this is due not only to my job, but also to my mind.
I don't care about sects, family crests, relatives, attendees social status at all.
I am not interested in funeral hall location, design, flower arrangement, telegram, monk's sermon, etc.
To be honest, I just wanted to do a "farewell party with my father", but the others were out of my scope.
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Nonetheless, my father is not my personal possession.
My father had walked with others for his life.
So, I do not think I should go behaving selfishly, and I think that providing the opportunities for farewell to his father is the work of the mourner.
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In addition, the funeral is a place to objectively show the status of the deceased and its relatives - I cannot deny the fact.
A big venue, many flowers, and many participants will show the credit of the deceased and a pride of the family.
Especially for asset owners, politicians, executives of companies and shops, where blood-related relationships have important meanings, there may be implications of "showcase of successors".
This is the same in wedding ceremonies as well.
These thoughts are based on as individualism's assertiveness, or rooted in customs in the regional culture. So I don't think that we make them poor.
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Even so, I still do not think that all of them will go beyond the will of the deceased.
The funeral against "the intention of the deceased" should not be forgiven.
(To be continued)