The other day, we invited a person who had been very kind to us at the unit party, as a guest.
When the feast is in full swing with drinking, I ask the guest person to confess her complains in our company.
If she faces some troubles, I think that I would like to resolve the problems as far as possible.
"Do you have any nasty accidents? Don't worry. It is between you and me."
When I said the above phase,
members of the unit burst into blame at the same time,
"You are going to write it on your web site, even if you don't chat!"